When you are a parent, you’re responsible for your child but now that they are an adult and having children of their own, it’s time for you to relax and reap the rewards of just enjoying the fun stuff. While it may be difficult at times, it’s important to remember that your child is now in charge of the parenting and you get to just sit back and enjoy time with your grandchildren.
If your child is about to have a child of their own, there are many ways that you can help. You can be supportive of your child and make sure you let them know that you are available if they need anything or have any questions. It can be especially helpful for a mother to be there for her daughter when she gives birth to a child of her own. She will probably have many questions for you.
But there’s a lot more that goes into becoming a grandparent and it’s important that you learn how to prepare so you can be the best grandparent you can be.
Don’t Forget Yourself
While you are taking care of your child and your new grandchild, it’s important to remember to care for yourself. Becoming a grandparent, especially for the first time, is a big life change and will require a transition. It’s time to stop thinking like the parent and time to become a grandparent. If you still have non-grown children of your own, it can make this transition even more difficult.
It’s important to separate yourself as the parent and yourself as the grandparent when the situations call for it. It’s tempting to try to be a parent to your grandchild, especially if you don’t agree with how your child is parenting but it’s important that you avoid this.
Becoming a grandparent doesn’t mean losing your identity as a person, a parent or an individual. It can make some people feel uncomfortable, especially if they become a grandparent earlier than they were expecting. This doesn’t have to mean you’re getting old or that your child doesn’t need you anymore now that they have children of their own.
Instead, it means that your role in the family will change but not that you won’t be needed anymore. You now have a very important role that you need to learn to fill. Just like you had to adjust when you first became a parent, you will also need to adjust and prepare for becoming a grandparent.
Tips for Becoming a Grandparent
Here are some tips for becoming a grandparent to help you:
· Resist the urge to offer advice when it isn’t asked for
· Don’t criticize your child’s parenting in front of the grandchild (or in front of other family members)
· Remember to share your own parenting experiences with your child
· Share fun or comical stories of parenting with your child
· Be open and available to talk if your child does have questions
· Remember not to try to “parent” your grandchildren
· Don’t undermine your child’s parenting decisions when you have the grandchildren in your care
· Childproof your home- if you haven’t had little ones in your house in some time, it may be time to re-childproof everything before your grandchildren come over’
· Remain a positive influence for your child and grandchildren
· Spend quality time with your grandchildren
· Remain involved in important events
Becoming a grandparent can be one of the happiest, most fulfilling things you will ever do with your life. This is a new stage in life and a new role for you in the family.
Preparing for the Future
Another thing that you may start thinking about at this time is the future. If you haven’t done it already then by the time you become a grandparent, you’re probably going to start thinking about your last will and testament, finances and other affairs.
This is a good time to develop an estate plan if you don’t already have one. If you are financially able, you may also want to plan for your grandchildren’s college or other expenses. If you plan to help with this, be sure to talk with the parents (your children) about your decision.